Teenage ADDICTION: Part 1, (Something Worth Thinking About)

(Something Worth Thinking About)

“How I wish, I had you in the first place”. That is what I tell myself after the person that I used to love get into relationship with another guy.

That was my past days.

Now, I would say “Alhamdulillah! I thank Allah for keeping me away from having relationship with her!”

That’s weird to some people. It was like “How you could be so happy after being rejected by someone you loved?” OR people might think that I’m just hiding my pain inside.

Let me tell you what.

It’s true, being in love, fall in love is something most teenagers dream of. Without it, teenager’s life is not complete. Is it? What make we think so? Is it impossible to live a teenage life without being in a relationship? AND where the heck is the term ‘TEENAGE LIFE’ coming from?

When we say teenage life, it would be something like having slumber party at friend’s house. Hanging out with friends at the mall. Being in a super romantic date with him/her. Being in a group of so-called gangsters in school.

Where do these things come from? Did our mothers teach us? Or is it the teachers?

If we were to think this is what teenage life supposed to be, I could say the media have done a very good job. From the movies that we watched, dramas in the television, most of it displaying a life of a teenagers falling in love with some conflicts and end up with ‘happily ever after’. Or a teenagers join a group of ‘bad kids’ in school, fight3, conquer the school with the teachers unable to control them.

And how much teenagers nowadays REAAALLY want to imitate the same drama in the television (or video what so ever).

“NO IM NOT!” Oh really? Let us sit back, and recall what we did in the time of high school. Recall what the most important thing that we want to achieve at that time. What was our dream? How creative we were to express our feelings to him/her.

We would be very proud if our story were 'cool' like the one in movies and dramas. The similar it is, more satisfied you'll be. What kind of puppet are we to be influenced like that?

Sorry to say, television dramas and love stories are just not good for us.

Even we say we refuse to follow what’s in the drama, when the time comes, we won’t realize we reach there already. Like how Prophet Adam a.s lured by Syaitan to disobey Allah’s warning. Slowly. Silently. Snappp!!! We’re in the trap.

(The Source of Addiction)

I don’t deny the fact that in the age of being teenager, we feel desperate to search for something.

Something to fill our hearts.

And that is where we start filling our heart with music, sports, friends, video games, movies, good grades, praises, attention, wealth, love couple,
Because we just don’t want to feel empty.

Is it wrong to fill an empty heart?

No.

Its human nature. Allah had created human with heart, to fill something in it and it cannot be left empty.

Put our hands near to the heart. Ask ourselves, what is in my heart right now? What had I filled it with? Is it worth it?

“Is it worth it?” is a critical question to answer. Why? Because the heart is unique! The heart dissevers the best!

“Truly in the body there is a morsel of flesh, which, if it be whole, all the body is whole, and which, if it is diseased, all of [the body] is diseased. Truly, it is the heart.” 

{Al-Bukhari] [Muslim]”

What so unique about the heart!? It’s a part of our body that we can feel but can’t physically see it. But the heart affects all parts of the body! Like SubhanAllah!

From the teenage years of our lives, we start searching,

Searching for the missing part of our lives.

Once we put something inside the heart, we would do anything to keep filling the with it.

If we love music, we keep fill ourselves with music.

If we love popularity, we would do anything to get popularity even we have to sacrifice our own friends.

If we love video games, we would sacrifice our time and money to get the best video games experience for ourselves.

If we love our love couple, we would obey every single thing that he/she said. We will try to act how he/she loves. We are willing to sacrifice everything for them!

There are more examples that you can imagine.

From these few examples, what are the similarities that we can see?

Sacrifice.

If we love something with all our heart, then we are willing to sacrifice for it.

My previous question was “Is it worth it?”

Is it worth it for me to sacrifice for music?

Or

Is it worth it for me to sacrifice for popularity?

Or

Is it worth it for me to sacrifice for video games?

Or

Is it worth it for me to sacrifice for my love couple?

How can we answer such question?

To answer that, we have to ask ourselves, “If I got this, how can I guarantee myself that it will stay with me?”

The enjoyment of music, popularity, games, love couple, how can I guarantee myself that I can have it forever?

Music, once we stop playing the music, we start to feel empty.

Once our love couple leaving us, we start to feel empty.

If that happened we would feel a thirst for something that forces us to search more of it.

Without it, we feel like….

Dying…

That’s when we can’t stop texting with him/her. We cant take them out of our minds. We cant stop planning what to do in the next date. IT JUST WONT STOP! THE ADDICTION ARE SEVERE! AS IF WE ARE IN..

A prison.

We think we are enjoying freedom from the sky to the earth when we working for something we love purely with our hearts.

Without we realize that We cant go anywhere far from it. Being cut off from it would hurt us deep inside.we’re actually in a prison. 

Is that what we called FREEDOM?

May Allah forgive us all

-Jihad Jihad Je-

Stay tuned for Part 2, (What's the Solution),
Credits to Yasmin Mogahed for inspiring me to write such topics.
Forgive me for any major and minor mistakes in the writing, just trying to get used to English writing. :P

*The word “I” doesn’t refer to the writer. “I” is used to get readers closer to the writings. Chak!